Decline of the Family as we know it

First stage, men have ceased to lead their families in worship. Spiritual and moral development has became secondary to personal space, and their view of God has become naturalistic, mathematical, and mechanical.

Second stage, men have become selfish and have turned to neglecting the care of their wives and children to pursue material wealth, political and military power, and cultural development. Material values have dominated thought, and man is more about exalting his own role as an individual.

Third stage involves changes in men's sexual values. Men who were preoccupied with business or war either neglected their wives sexually or became involved with lower-class women or with homosexuality. Thus the double standard of morality has developed.

Fourth stage has affected women. The role of women at home and with children has is more and more losing its value and status. Women have been and are more neglected and their roles devalued from within the home as well as in society. Women have now more than ever sought to gain access to material wealth and also freedom for sex outside marriage. Men and Women both are out to minimize having sex relations to conceive children, and putting the emphasis on just sex for pleasure. Marriage laws have been changed to make divorce easy and it has become everyones escape instead of working to make it stronger. People would rather just throw their marriage away and seek another rather than spend their life with one spouse.

Fifth stage, husbands and wives have begun competing against each other for money, home leadership, and the affection of their children. This resulted in greater hostility and frustration and causes more issues for the children. More marriages that should have worked out have ended in separation and divorce because of the power struggle in the home. Many children have been left unwanted, or aborted, abandoned, molested, and undisciplined. The more undisciplined children have become the more social pressure that is brought about on society to try and manage the discipline within our homes and not allow families to manage their own children. The continued destruction of the home is on the verge of producing nation wide anarchy within our youth.

Sixth stage, is that selfish individualism has grown and carried over into society, fragmenting it into smaller and smaller group loyalties. This nation has been weakened by internal conflict, and the decrease in the birthrate has produced an older population that has less ability to defend itself and less willingness to do so, making this nation more vulnerable to its enemies.

Final stage, is the utter and growing unbelief in God which has become more complete, the parental authority being diminished, and the ethical and moral principles of this nation have all but disappeared, which has affected the economy, government, and nation as whole. This internal weakness and destruction of our moral fortitude is what is causing our society to come apart. There is no way to save this nation unless we have the people arise from within and fight for freedom and liberty or by outsiders coming in and destroying this nation as whole. 

Which would you rather see because no matter what we do, the further we get away from God one of the two must and will take place, and you have to decide which one would you want to see?

 

Addictions?

Drugs, Alcohol, Pornography, Smoking, Video Games, just to name a few are some of the addictions that face families on a daily basis. If any of the aforementioned addictions or others gain root within a family, that family could be doomed for destruction. We as parents need to be mindful of these things and all others and do our best to prevent them from destroying our families and our homes.

Here are 7 things that I found that might help your prevent destruction of your family due to an addiction of any kind.

(1) First check your values, and find what’s important to you – The things that mater most to you than the addiction your facing.

(2) Try to develop and practice the skills you need to manage your life without relying on your current addiction.

(3) Work on how to control your addictive urges through various mind management techniques; I.E. Meditation, Prayer, Counseling; whatever it may be for you).

(4) Find and appreciate the rewards that come from a doing without your addiction. Set goals for yourself and reward yourself for when you reach those goals.

(5) Work on building personal relationships and turn to other avenues of positive influence, support and companionship.

(6) Find your purpose and plan a future that leads to accomplishing your life goals without the addiction your facing.

(7) Show the new you who is more mature, a non-addicted new you who is a person who can simply reject the addiction(s) in all forms.

Don't be afraid to fight against the addiction that plagues you or your family. The only way to win is fight back. God Bless

Adultery

The world's definition of Adultery is so far from truth and biblical reasoning. The world defines adultery as:

"The voluntary sexual intercourse by a married person with someone other than his or her spouse. The consent of both parties and penetration are required for adultery to exist."

God's definition of adultery is:

Matthew 5:28 - But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

 

This applies to women as well so don't think that when a woman looks at a hot guy that is not her husband and lusts after him with her eyes that she is just innocent. She has just committed adultery as well.

 

Infidelity kills families, and gives those involved nothing but shame rained down on their head. Luckily for those of us who are saved we can confess our sin and God is faithful and just to forgive us of our sin and cleanse us from all unrighteousness as he says in his word.

Divorce Statistics

With divorce rates climbing daily our families are more and more in danger of failing because men and women both don't know what it means to commit to someone anymore. Many of these are because they had no positive example in their own lives. I know that because my parents divorced when I was 3, and unfortunately I divorced my first wife, not by choice, but out of necessary need for my own mental stability. Now I want to try and prevent that for my kids by hopefully helping them to choose the right partner the first time, and most of making ure God is the center of that relationship. What about you?

    Age at marriage for those who divorce in America

Age	Women	Men
Under 20 years old	27.6%	11.7%
20 to 24 years old	36.6%	38.8%
25 to 29 years old	16.4%	22.3%
30 to 34 years old	8.5%	11.6%
35 to 39 years old	5.1%	6.5%

Divorce Statistics in America for Marriage

Marriage	Divorce statistics (in percent)
First Marriage	45% to 50% marriages end in divorce
Second Marriage	60% to 67% marriages end in divorce
Third Marriage	70% to 73% marriages end in divorce

* Source of this Divorce Statistics: Jennifer Baker, Forest Institute of Professional Psychology, Springfield Enrichment journal also gives similar divorce statistics in America:

• The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41% to 50%
• The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60% to 67%
• The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73% to 74%

Reports also say that couples with children have a slightly lower rate of breakup as compared to couples without children. This is due to the fact that being childless is one of the prime causes behind divorce in America. Also, the children of divorced parents are prone to divorcing 4 times more than the children of couples who are not divorced.

The Family under attack

The understanding and function of the family is under attack in our nation today. The very foundation of our nation and the families which it is supposed to be centered around is under attack by the governmental system. What we know as the family (A Father, Mother and kids) has been forced to become something both biblically and morally wrong (Two Father or Two mothers and kids). How can we as a nation that has abhorred homosexuality and same sex marriage for so many year allow these attacks on God's definition of family to continue?

"The key reason why the American family is in trouble, is that too many American husbands and wives consider their families to be of secondary importance. Their number one priority is themselves, their personal growth, fulfillment and all the other things we say when what we really mean is, "Me first." Neither the economic nor the employment status of the parents is the key. What matters is whether the family is at the center of their concern." William Raspberry, the columnist who often writes for The Orlando Sentinel

Christian families especially are under attack in America! It is just as if the Communist Soviet Russia exists today in the U.S., just as Brother Lester Roloff warned us about. Parents who home school their kids are increasingly being attacked by the State because they disagree with how the public school system has become more and more unacceptable for our children to not only gain a good education, but it has also become a cesspool of drugs, teenage sex, criminal activity, and so much more that I know I don't want my kids exposed too. What about you? Are you OK with your kids being allowed to be exposed to such evil?

According to Scripture, husband and wife are "one flesh," a community of life, and members one of another (Gen. 2:24, Matt. 19:5-6; Eph. 5:22-33).

Homosexuality is an abomination sayeth the Lord, and nowhere in the bible are you going to find it acceptable for a man and man or woman and woman to become married, Period. The governmental officials that have ramrodded this problem into our homes and society will stand in judgement before God Almighty and they will pay for their sin. You kids are subjected to it, your families are subjected to it daily through television, movies, gameshows, reality shows, etc. When will this nation take a stand for God like they do for immorality?